Positioning – how to hold and help your baby to breastfeed

The early days of breastfeeding are a time of learning together. Holding your baby in a way that feels comfortable and supports good attachment can make feeding easier and more enjoyable.

There’s no single “right” way so try a few positions to see what works for you both. You might use different holds at different times or as your baby grows. The most important thing is that you and your baby feel comfortable and relaxed.

Make yourself comfortable

In the early days, breastfeeding takes time, so it helps to start in a calm, well-prepared space. A little planning can make a big difference. Choose where you’ll feed, keep what you need within reach, and get comfortable. When you’re relaxed, your milk flows more easily, helping your baby feed more effectively.

Choose your space and position
You can breastfeed while sitting, reclining, or lying down. Choose whichever feels best for you. Pick a spot where you feel safe, relaxed, and free from distractions.

Gather what you need
Breastfeeding can make you thirsty, so it’s helpful to keep a glass of water or a drink bottle nearby. You might also want your phone, TV remote, or a book within reach. Setting up before you begin means you can settle in without interruptions.

Wear comfortable clothing
Wear clothes that make feeding easy and comfortable. Tops that unbutton to the waist or open easily can help. Or you might prefer to take off your top and bra or have them well open so nothing gets in the way.

Support your body
If you’re sitting up, you could use pillows to support your back and arms. A pillow on your lap may help bring your baby’s nose level with your nipple, but take care it doesn’t bring baby up too high – or too low. It’s not helpful to be leaning over to reach your baby.

Pillows work for some mums, but for others, they can make it harder to keep your baby close and against your chest. If you do use a pillow, continue to hold your baby with your arms or rest them on your body, rather than letting them lie directly on the pillow.

If you’re lying down, extra pillows behind your back or under your shoulder can make you more comfortable.

Relax your shoulders and avoid leaning forward
It’s easy to tense up without noticing, so try to keep your shoulders relaxed and avoid leaning forward, which can strain your back and neck. A semi-reclined position can help you stay comfortable

Your baby’s instincts

From birth, babies have instincts that help them find the breast and begin feeding. You might notice your baby:

sticking out their tongue
turning their head from side to side
wriggling or moving towards the breast

You might like to encourage your baby to use their instincts to seek out the breast and attach for a feed. Learn more about this approach.

However your baby finds the breast, holding them close in a comfortable position helps them feed well.

Hold your baby close

Finding a position that works for you and your baby can take a little trial and error. You might use different holds at different times, or as your baby grows.
Here are some common breastfeeding positions. Try a few to see what feels best for you and your baby. You might find one that becomes your favourite, or you may switch between holds depending on the situation.

Ways to hold your baby

Cradle hold

Hold your baby with their head at your breast and their body wrapped around your chest. Their legs are tucked in, helping them feel secure.

Cross cradle hold

Support your baby with the arm opposite to the breast you’re feeding from. This hold lets you use your free hand to guide your breast and help your baby take a deep mouthful. Once your baby is feeding, you can switch to the cradle hold for comfort. This position is useful if you want to shape your breast with your free hand.

Laid-back or semi-reclined

Lean back with your baby resting on your chest. This position is relaxing and lets your body support your baby’s weight. It’s a good position for your baby to use their instincts to find the breast.

Straddle hold

Hold your baby upright, sitting on your lap or straddling your leg. Some babies prefer being upright, especially if they have trouble lying on their side or if you have a fast milk flow.

Underarm / Football / Twin hold

Your baby’s head faces in, with their legs tucked under your arm. This position is helpful after a caesarean or when feeding twins. Pillows can help support your baby in this hold.

Side-lying

Lie down with your baby close beside you. This position can take practice and may be easier as your baby gets older.

Breastfeeding while lying down

Support your baby to attach well

Whichever position you choose, helping your baby to latch well is key to comfortable and effective feeding. When your baby takes a deep mouthful of your breast this helps them feed well and makes feeding comfortable for you.

Get your baby ready
Your baby will attach and feed more effectively if they’re calm and alert. If your baby is upset or crying, try holding them skin-to-skin on your chest, gently stroking their back. Or let them suck on your finger for few minutes. If your baby is sleepy, unwrapping them or removing clothes to just a nappy often wakes them.

Hold your baby close with their arms free.
Wrapping them tightly might keep their hands out of the way, but it can make it harder to bring their body in close for a good latch. Babies naturally like to have their hands up near their face and resting on your chest.

Position your baby facing you
Their chest and tummy should be against your body. No matter which position you choose, your baby’s head, neck, and body should be in a straight line. Their head needs to be at the same level as your breast and their nose near your nipple.

Support your baby’s neck and shoulders
Avoid holding the back of their head. Babies have a reflex to push back if you hold the back of their head, which can make attachment harder.

Encourage a fully open mouth and deep latch:

Brush your baby’s mouth with your nipple and the underside of your areola. This gentle touch encourages your baby to open their mouth fully, like a yawn. You may need to do this a few times while your baby is still learning.

When your baby’s mouth is fully open and their tongue comes forward over their lower gum, move them quickly to the breast.

Aim your nipple towards the roof of your baby’s mouth. Their chin should touch your areola first, well below your nipple. This helps your baby take in your nipple and a good part of your breast before closing their mouth. It all happens quickly!

Shape your breast if it helps. Some mothers find that shaping their breast allows baby to take in more breast. If you do this, be careful that letting go doesn’t move your breast or nipple in your baby’s mouth.

If attachment isn’t comfortable, try again. If your baby doesn’t get enough breast in their mouth, or it doesn’t feel right as they start to feed, try again. Break the suction and detach your baby by placing your little finger into the corner of their mouth, between their gums.

Not sure about your baby’s latch?

Watch mums attach their babies using different positions in this video from Global Health Media.

Use the timings below to jump to the sections you’re most interested in:

0:00     Introduction
0:45     Positioning for a good latch
2:00    Feeding in a semi-reclined position
3:50     Using the cross cradle hold
5:05     Cradle hold
6:00    Underarm hold
7:20    Side-lying position
8:00    Positions for feeding twins
8:40    Summary checklist for positioning and attachment