Preparing your toddler for the new baby

Expecting another baby? Congratulations! You might feel excited and a bit unsure about how your toddler will adjust. 

There’s no single right way to prepare, but here are some gentle ideas to help your family.

You can tell your toddler about the new baby whenever it feels right for you. Some parents share early, others wait until there’s a bump or an ultrasound photo. Toddlers may not understand all the changes, but talking about the baby growing inside you can help. Playing with a doll together is a fun way to explore baby care.

If your toddler is still breastfeeding, you don’t need to stop unless you want to. If you decide to wean, doing it slowly is usually easier. Some parents keep breastfeeding during pregnancy or even tandem feed both children. Many find this helps siblings bond.

A new baby can mean changes to routines and spaces. You might want to move your toddler to a ‘big bed’ or buy another cot. If you co-sleep, think about what will work best after the baby arrives. Starting day care or toilet training right after the birth may be tricky, so consider timing that feels right for your child.

Think about the birth too. Will your toddler be present? If you’re having your baby in hospital, check their rules about siblings visiting. Plan who will care for your toddler and what they’ll need while you’re away.

There’s no set way to introduce your toddler to their new sibling. Some families have a special ritual or give a gift from the baby to the toddler. When you return from hospital, greeting your toddler first can help them feel valued. Bringing both children home together lets your toddler welcome the baby into their space.

Some toddlers bond quickly, while others need time. Both are normal.

Caring for a newborn is exciting and tiring. Breastfeeding takes time and now you have a toddler too. Some of these suggestions might work for you and your little ones.

• Ask your toddler to introduce guests to their new sibling.
• Find time for one-on-one activities with your toddler, even just 15 minutes.
• Invite your toddler to bring you things for the baby or help with bath time.
• Save special toys or books for time with your toddler.
• Go for walks with both children to enjoy time together.

Breastfeeding can be a chance to rest, but toddlers may need attention too. Set up a safe space so your toddler can be near you while you feed. Have snacks and water handy for both of you. Your toddler might want to breastfeed again, or even feed their toys!

Try to keep daily routines as much as possible. Many toddlers act out when a new baby arrives, and routines can help. This is a special time for your family so relax and give yourselves time to adjust.

© Australian Breastfeeding Association May 2026